In New England where there are four distinct seasons, we know in the fall that daylight will be short. For many of us there is a deep longing for more light. As we await the return of the light that begins at winter solstice, we have an opportunity to tend the inner light. For many years I resisted going in and getting still. Now, I embrace this time of outer darkness and tend the fire giving myself permission to just be. There is a reason why people gather around the hearth for light and warmth.
It is interesting that the dwindling daylight occurs as the holidays approach. For some, the holidays are frenetic and over-busy. More and more people are making different choices about how they want to celebrate. Less elaborate more heartfelt visits with friends and loved ones. Less structure and more play. Can we dare to keep traditions that really matter and feel alive and let go of what feels like duty or work? You may want to explore ways to create new holiday experiences within your circle of family and friends.
For some folks who are dealing with loss, holding on to past traditions can bring sadness. It may be a good time to contemplate something completely different and revisit traditions later.
This is a great time to listen to the inner intuitive voice that guides you. It is also a time to let go of what the mind thinks we should do. Rather than being in the holiday trance, we have an opportunity to experience being present. Offering your presence is truly a loving gift to give others.
In light of the season of giving here is an Inquiry or gift you can give yourself.
The Empty Bowl Meditation
Choose a bowl that you like to see and place seven objects that are important to you at this time. If an item is too big place it near the bowl. Each day pick one item and reflect of its significance. Allow any feelings, memories or thoughts to come up. Embrace the feelings, then ask regarding this, what is true for me now? How am I holding onto the past? How does this keep me from being present now?
When the bowl is empty allow yourself to reflect on emptiness. There is a saying, we must be empty of the fullness to be full of the emptiness. Explore emptiness and see what arises. Notice if there is judgment, self-judgment, anger, or a story-line running. Observe that the mind keeps coming up with thoughts and distractions and notice who is observing this. Center your awareness there and embrace the feeling.
May the blessings of the season be with you.